FRIDAY FUN

FRIDAY FUN

FRIDAY FUN ~ FULLER STYLE

Everyone knows that at the end of a school year I get “get outta school itis” worse than the kids and teachers.  I don’t think the traditional educational systems knows (or cares) about the amount of pressure that it put on PARENTS.  Last minute trips, last minute projects, last minute assemblies, schools are a bundle of last minute everything.  Anyways I digress.  So today we took a “vacation” day and hung out together and went to the chiropractor :

Marcus, Jr being adjusted by our chiropractor, his brother and his sister 🙂

We went to the book store and we had good fast food….well we had food.  We danced, we sang and we didn’t do any work at all, today was a total free day.

 

FRIDAY FUN ~ UPDATES

Marcus Jr. has been growing mentally by leaps and bounds.  This is what he did today:

  • When he wanted lunch he grabbed a plate and fork and came over and asked me for lasagna
  • When we got out of the car at the book store he got out closed his door and came over to me no running or jumping
  • Although, he did running and jumping in the bookstore he came when I called and choose his own book
  • He’s been very verbal about his wants, the whining and crying from not being able to communicate is lessening

Jai Lynn has been doing great also, here is what she did today:

  • Took her clothes to the basement only had to ask once
  • Cleaned up the floor in her room
  • Sang and danced with me today

Mason:

  • Language is becoming clearer
  • Tantrums lessening

All in all the kids are doing great.  So proud of all of them.  So that is our Friday update hope you enjoyed, we are still doing the same supplements:

We don’t take all supplements everyday, honestly the only two we take consistently are the Divine Child drink and Juice Plus. I watch what they eat and make sure I keep their brains working.

Know in the journey you are not alone, we have come a long way and still have a lot of ground to cover but I am beginning to see and their teachers are beginning to see a real change in the two older kids and everyone is commenting on how “aware and smart” Mason is.

Keep up with us as we chronicle our summer time fun and learning expedition.

Until Next Time

Wishing you Peace, Love and Healing

Charmaine

 

What’s Today Again???

MONDAY FUN

We LOVE Monday’s around here, actually we love all days of the week but who’s counting. Today was not a late start Monday at school but all the better for me because it allowed me to get so much done this afternoon .  I have one binder down for summer homeschooling and I have 2 more to go.  I set up face to face interviews with new nanny’s today, transferred all the posts from my Blogger blog to my WordPress blog for my businesses.  Today has been filled with fun.

MONDAY ~ FULLER STYLE

So today’s supplements were Juice Plus, Acetyl L Carnitine, Serrapeptase and Min Chex.  The kids were very focused today, Marcus, Jr did very well listening and following directions in Starbucks this afternoon,  Jai Lynn did a great job following and understanding directions, Mason did a great job following directions also.  We topped tonight off with showers and melatonin for the older kids, teeth brushing and a story.   There is only two more weeks left of school and I’m excited.  Marcus, Jr has a speech evaluation  this Thursday but I’m not sure about this place I’ve not heard good things about it so we probably will be cancelling.

I don’t do homework, why because my kids have done enough at school. Now in saying that we do “home work” which is chores, kitchen math, we have conversations about any and everything and we spend time together.  I never got the concept of sending homework home,  other than the fact that it’s a cycle of punishment enacted on the parent by the schools. I mean really when you go to a “job” (which is what school is essentially) who brings work home from a “job” a career maybe, a job, no. You do you time and come home.

 

MONDAY ~ HOW IT ENDS

So how does it end for me? Well I have two more blogs to post to (Stampin’ &  Organizing with Charm and Charmed Profits) then it’s yoga, meditation and bed.  Tomorrow’s “to do” list is ready to go and so am I.  Autism is treatable, your children can be healed.  If you are willing to change your mindset and put in the work it can be done.  Our days are so full because we choose for them to be. We choose to focus on the great things our kids do, we choose to focus on the joy.

So Until Next Time

Peace, Love and Recovery

The Fullers

To Vaccinate or not to Vaccinate that is the question

This is a touchy, touchy, touchy subject…vaccines.  Are they any good, are the parents not vaccinating crazy?  I believe (this is my personal opinion I am not anywhere near the medical profession but this is my gut feeling about how they affect my kids) in my heart of heart that vaccines are not the wonderful that the medical community, government and pharmaceutical companies would have you believe.  I think they were manufactured for people who didn’t have the time to be sick or have sick kids so they needed a quick fix. The drug companies realized that they could make money off of us and our “microwave” mentality and ran with it.  They began manufacturing drugs and vaccines to “keep you kids healthy” never mentioning diet, exercise (the stuff that requires some work) because we didn’t want to hear it.

I believe that vaccinating your child is your personal decision as a parent. I don’t fault those who do and I don’t think those that don’t are crazy, it’s your choice.  But I don’t, I seriously believe that my son’s issues stem from vaccine damage as his first seizure came after a round up of vaccines given to him by the U.S. military “doctors” and “medical staff”(oh boy do I use that term loosely we’ll talk about how the U.S. government cares for their service members and their families in a later blog) whew give me a minute too many feeling rushing (I see some forgiveness work in my near and immediate future on this one). in a period of three months my son had over12 (DTAP, Polio, Hib, Hep B, Prevnar all given at the SAME time in March, April and June of 2004)vaccinations that where given to him all while he had recurrent  double ear infections…(wait I need another minute to process this one)…Soon after the last go round he got super sick and then had a seizure , which when I remember back is the same type of seizure that he is having now.  When he was admitted into the hospital he was diagnosed with pneumonia and staph infection of the blood! It never occurred to anyone that something was extremely wrong with that picture.

I know that me as his mom should’ve stepped in but I didn’t have the knowledge that I had now and I was still apart of that mindset that  medical staff knew everything and that they actually had my child’s best interest at heart.  There only concern was a schedule and not the health and wellness of my child.

I say all of that to say this, if you do or don’t vaccinate know your why. Not to explain it to anyone else because it’s no one’s business if you do or don’t, but that explanation is for you. So that no matter what happens to your child good or bad health wise you know that you did all you could, you know that you were armed with the knowledge you needed to make a conscious decision for your child’s health. Please READ up on whatever you decided to do or not do, research, research, research don’t take ANYONE’S word for it.

I know that had I not vaccinated my son as well as pump him with antibiotics that his path would be much different than what it is now, and as a parent I have to forgive myself because I only did what I knew. My job now is to make him better.  That’s why I was always so tough on Marcus, Jr because I felt like I caused it, that it was my fault that he was having seizures, and he could talk or that he is in his own world and seeing the reflection of things you think you did wrong is painful.  I think that is the most painful part about having a child with a different ability, you feel in some way responsible. Now I’m not about to be popular for this next statement but here goes.

In a sense you are responsible for whatever your child’s current (note the word current) condition. I’m not talking solely the different ability itself but everything surrounding it. Stop babying your child saying what they can’t do or will never be able to do, because it sets a tone in the universe, then they take on the mindset that they are limited in life.  Stop dwelling on  what you “might” have or “might not have” done that’s in the past, how is being depressed helping your future or your child’s future?  I’m not saying you can’t have a sad day or a day that you are totally frustrated with the process, just don’t stay there it’s not healthy for anyone.

Great example of what I mean:

Marcus, Jr had impulse control issues, and I would always jump down his thought, yell at him, just basically sending him bad vibes, so that’s how he acted, no better no worse.  I always said to myself he will never get better he will always be doing this thing or that thing.  So he did, and the vicious cycle continued and it even caused other family members to join in and gang up on Marcus and how “bad” he was. One day I woke up and decided to shift my thinking about him and only feed him positive message because I didn’t like the mom in front of me or the kids that she was producing. I resolved that no matter what his abilities where I was going to prepare him to be his best by being patient and kind. And the kid that emerged is the kid I’m blogging about now, helpful, attentive, smart, loving, able to follow along in class.

So you see mom’s and dad’s thought hold A LOT of  power. More than you could ever imagine.

Feed your family thoughts of healing, kindness, love, compassion. Dish it out and you’ll be sure to get it back.

Send you Love. Health. and Wellness

Charmaine

 

Oh my Progress!

The past few days for Marcus, Jr and Jai Lynn have been amazing to see their growth and level of understanding growth and flourish.  To see them get things.

 

*side note I started this posting before they got home from school. I don’t know if it’s because we have a vacation coming up or what but they are getting to me all of them.*

Any who.  Monday and Tuesday for Marcus, Jr. at school were wonderful.  They reported that he had been able to sit at the table at lunchtime for the past two days without being re-directed, he has been doing his work at school and at home with pretty good focus and without much fanfare. He had been doing well at home also.

Today he had a few small upsets but I think it’s time for castor oil wrap and clay bath so we’ll see.

 

Otherwise kids doing great. I thought Jai Lynn was done crying about school but she’s not. Now I’m beginning to think she’s not just being dramatic.  She’s not saying that anyone is messing with her or making her feel uncomfortable but she doesn’t want to go. She says the school is too big and old. Which in my mommy mind mean something else.

Thankfully I’ll be starting homeschool lessons this summer so they will be ready to go in the fall.  I will be creating my own curriculum as I am not satisfied with the ones from the internet schools. Still feel to boxed in for me.

I’m planning a day next week to run off and get some things together (not running away just running to Starbucks for free Wi-Fi) so I can start getting materials ready for summer.

Until Next Time

Wishing you health and wellness

Charmaine

 

 

April 11, 2013 and beyond!

So I have been away for a few weeks it’s been a bit crazy around here.  I was preparing for my business open house for Thirty One and Stampin’ Up! and I was also preparing for my first day of class.  I’m huge on schedules around here so I had to re-configure my business and academic life into my schedule and I figured while I was at it I might as well add in the homeschooling schedule because summer will be here before I know it and so will fall.  I have decided to create my own curriculum as I am not enthused with the two internet based schools that I found, plus my gut is telling me that my kids will learn better with something completely tailored to them.  You might think me crazy but I enjoy having my children home with me.   So what you wonder has been going on in the Fuller world of Autism?

Let’s start with Jai Lynn Spring break was a great time for us we worked on multiplication, subtraction and general overall household chores.  We worked on and still are working on her not apologizing for everything.  Learning that when you make a mistake to apologize once but don’t continue doing it. Once is enough. She is doing 1 tsp of the Divine Child drink, Serrapeptase, castor oil wraps, clay bath acetyl l carnitine.

This summer we’re going to dig deep with reading comprehension. Although, she can read at a 6th grade level she can only comprehend at about a third, she retains about one quarter of what she reads. She is not very good at all at simple recall.  The main reason I’m thinking of pulling her is that  middle school is a completely different monster   Many more kids, classes just bigger and that is a lot.  She can’t even tell me clearly what went on at school that day.  And that concerns me that she doesn’t have simple recall skills.

Jai Lynn has come a long way in the department of self-care but she still has a ways to go.We are still learnin how to deal with emotions and not go from 0 -1000 in 30 seconds flat.  But progress is being made.  A gain for her was this morning we were running late mainly because she was playing aroud in her room versus getting dressed and eating her breakfast.  When we got in the car she asked where we late and I stated “yes” and she said I’m sorry for doddling (from little Bill it means being a slowpoke). Then today after a melt down she said mom I’m sorry for yelling.  When she has meltdowns (which isn’t too often) she’ll often make negative statements like “I’m such a fool, I’m stupid, I’m a loser” so I’ve been taking those times to pump her with positive affirmations, we have also been doing positive affirmations before she gets out of the car.

Marcus, Jr has been doing well. Spring Break was a great , no seizures.  He worked on math and reading fluency. Same supplements as Jai Lynn including Min-Chex.

Some gains that he is making is in his cognitive ability.  We just started Luminosity which is a brain training website, you get some games for free the rest along with some other tools are available with the subscription, we will be getting the subscription by the way for both kids because they both need it.

This week so far he has had four seizures (three yesterday, one today) a bout of bad gas, and grinding his teeth.  The new Divine Child drink has tamarind in it to detox them from fluoride poisoning (yes the stuff in our water and toothpaste that they said would help is poisoning us and our children) and it also has kelp which is a great source of iodine.

Today he had a castor oil wrap and clay bath and is doing much better. It appears to me that he is detoxing from the new divine child drink and that we should see more gains. He has been very alert all day, although alert his focus has been a bit off today which it normally is after a seizure.  This seizure was different than anyone one I have seen. Then I started to think, maybe it is because I never truly observed his seizures my “fight or flight” went into play and my main concern was getting him someplace safe. But it appears that he is having General Tonic-Clonic Seizures.  So now that I have a pretty good idea that it’s not absence seizures I can move forward (which is why we are using Luminosity). Something he did last night that made me keep the faith is, when his curtain fell I asked him where was the piece that went to it. I heard it drop on the floor but didn’t see it where I thought it would be.  After I finished attaching the curtain he tapped me on the shoulder and pointed directly to the piece! So super proud of him.

 

Mason is growing by leaps and bounds and his language is doing great he can say mamma, daddy, bro bro,sissy, GiGi(that’s my mom) and trying to teach him PaPa. He knows who each of the people are, and he can identify and say his (and yours) nose, ears, mouth, head,teeth, and other body parts. Whenever someone doesn’t give him his way he says their name the says a bunch of baby talk in the middle then the name of whoever he’s reporting to so for example Daddy insert baby talk here Sissy.  So that would mean he’s telling on his sister lol.  He knows how to ask for food items that he wants and can read facial expressions like the guy from the show “Lie To Me” (If you haven’t seen it look it up). We are learning shapes, numbers, colors, counting and alphabet.

 

So as you see we are super busy here but I love it.  We have some exciting events coming up in the near future that I will report on and so much growth on the horizon.

Until Next Time,

Wishing you Blessings & Recovery,

Charmaine

*side note I was just elected as an at-large delegate to the Michigan Special Education Advisory Committee State Advisory Panel!

Kid Update 5-2-13

So a lot has been going on with the kids lets start with Marcus Jr first:

Last week Marcus, Jr. had 3 seizures on Thursday, 4 on Friday and one on Saturday, since the seizures here is what has been going on.  His tolerance has increased. What I mean by this is that when we re-directed him he doesn’t meltdown for 5-10 minutes crying, screaming and throwing  himself from wall to wall.  For the past few days when redirected, he whines for a bit, grabs your hand looks in your face (so you can see he does’t like it) and then moves on once you acknowledge him. This morning when I got downstairs Marcus decided he wanted to watch T.V. before putting on his clothes and when I asked him to turn off the T.V. he did, he whined a bit and then went to put his clothes on and once his clothes were on he went about playing around upstairs before breakfast as normal.  Last night, I didn’t have to stand over him to get it done, I went into the kitchen to cook and when I remembered that I had sat him down to do his homework he was done!  His teacher and the classroom aide, also have noticed this new trend in class, stating that he doesn’t need to be continuously prompted to do work and that he just does it. they have also noted that  when redirected he is not upset for long.  So that is a huge plus.

 

Jai Lynn this past week spent her first go round in detention.  On Friday she didn’t go to school because Marcus was sleeping after a seizure and I didn’t want to wake him.  So she stayed home and she is ALWAYS OK with staying  home from school unless they are either doing something fun at school or going on a field trip.  So she goes to school on Monday and discovers that on the Friday she so gladly missed they had something special.  In her anger of  missing that perceived treat she dropped the “F” bomb (and I don’t mean forgiveness  and punched a young man that was standing next to her.  So when her teacher contacted me on Tuesday about what happened she asked me what did I want to do because no one had sent her to the office or even reprimanded her, but they did talk to her about it being bad. So I asked what would they have done with a neurotypical child and she informed me sent them to the office.  So I said send her to the office so that she could see the process of what happens after you hit someone who hasn’t done anything to you. So, Jai Lynn was sent to the office and received detention on Wednesday after school.  She and I had a conversation that she was not a bad person but a good person that made a bad choice and that we all make bad choices at times, but we have to ask for forgiveness and forgive ourselves and keep it moving and she got that. She also got that detention was the consequence for hitting someone when they had done nothing to you, she got that you don’t cuss in school, how do I know because when she came home on Wednesday after detention she stated “I don’t ever want to go to detention again, it’s too much work, no more hitting” lol I almost fell outta my chair.  We are working on some other pieces with her such as, bathroom etiquette, not spazing out when someone isn’t doing something according to the rules, teaching her the fine balance of being concerned about her own space and what she is doing and not always feeling the need to report everything that everyone else is doing.

This summer with both kids we will be working on social pieces as well as some academics.  Unschooling over the summer will be intense yet it will be fun.

Mason, smh is a typical two year old. I take my hats off to parents that have a house full of neurotypical kids.  You know sometimes in our world of different abilities we seem to think that parent of neurotypical children have it SOOO much easier, when they don’t. They face the same challenges that we do just in different ways, they have the same cares and concerns for their children as we do and they love their children just as much.  We in the different abilities community must stop with the stereotype that neurotypical parents don’t care about their children as much, and don’t have to do as much work as we do.  We must stop thinking that our brand of parenting gives us a special right to judge.  The reason why many of us are feel isolated is because we think we’re different, and we are all different and quirky in some way but not so different that we can’t connect with another parent because we don’t think they’ll get us. We’re all parents! I’m not saying not to have a support group of like-minded parents that are in a similar situation as you but don’t totally exclude those that are not like you either.

Wishing you Health and Wellness

Charmaine

 

 

Week Three “Making my Children Better” Challenge

So we are coming to a close of week three of the “Making my kids better challenge”  and this week has been the best of them all.  Here are the supplements that we are doing for our children this past week:

  • Serrapeptase 2 40,000 i.u.’s on Friday, Saturday and Sunday
  • Castor Oil Wrap Friday, Saturday Sunday
  • Clay Bath Sunday
  • Acetyl L Carnitine 1 per day 7 days
  • MRM Attention Gels up to 3 per day 7 days
  • Min Chex up to 3 per day 7 days
  • Niacinamide 1 per day 7 days
  • Chelated Molybedum 1 per day 7 days
  • Melatonin 1 mg tab per night 7 nights
  • Zeolite 1 tbsp per night 7 nights
  • Divine Child Drink 1 tblspn per day 7 days
  • NADH 1 tab 3x per week

So the gains/changes we have seen are as follows:

Marcus Jr.

  • More language that is appropriate
  • Teachers and aides reporting more focus in doing his work
  • Last time he had Seizure was Sunday, February 3, 2013 very brief quick recovery
  • Increased patience and ability to wait
  • Less frustration
  • In church on Sunday (yes he went after he had a seizure) he gave out high fives
  • He’s been helping me more in the kitchen
  • Been easier to re-direct
  • Been more affectionate
  • Asked dad, “Where is the remote” and it wasn’t a part of a “script” (no echolia)
  • He can now say how old he is

Jai Lynn

  • Less crying spells greater ability to breathe through unfavorable news
  • Greater ability to recall school day
  • Greater ability to follow directions without getting confused

Now, Jai Lynn and Marcus, Jr are two COMPLETELY different ends of the spectrum. His changes are often more drastic and easily seen hers are much more subtle. So as I think of things about either child I will be adding it here.  But both kids are doing very well.  I’m thinking that when we start doing everything on the protocol our gains will be even larger.

I will be doing more video for our YouTube channel(please email me for link and password) this weekend.  Would like to do video updates of both kids. The only kid going through growing pains is Mason, as he is almost two years old so ironically he is the most challenging child at this point. As both older kids are assisting with him and making sure he is taken care of and out of “trouble’.

This has been a great week.  We are moving upward and onward.

Love and Blessings

Charmaine

Side note: Because I have two kids that I have to do castor oil wraps for I warm the flannel up in the oven on 250 for about 15 minutes, let it cool and then apply, the heat lasts for about 30 minutes. It allows me to wrap two kids at once with an even heat.   My clay I have a dedicated blender to blend it in so it’s smooth.