FRIDAY FUN

FRIDAY FUN

FRIDAY FUN ~ FULLER STYLE

Everyone knows that at the end of a school year I get “get outta school itis” worse than the kids and teachers.  I don’t think the traditional educational systems knows (or cares) about the amount of pressure that it put on PARENTS.  Last minute trips, last minute projects, last minute assemblies, schools are a bundle of last minute everything.  Anyways I digress.  So today we took a “vacation” day and hung out together and went to the chiropractor :

Marcus, Jr being adjusted by our chiropractor, his brother and his sister 🙂

We went to the book store and we had good fast food….well we had food.  We danced, we sang and we didn’t do any work at all, today was a total free day.

 

FRIDAY FUN ~ UPDATES

Marcus Jr. has been growing mentally by leaps and bounds.  This is what he did today:

  • When he wanted lunch he grabbed a plate and fork and came over and asked me for lasagna
  • When we got out of the car at the book store he got out closed his door and came over to me no running or jumping
  • Although, he did running and jumping in the bookstore he came when I called and choose his own book
  • He’s been very verbal about his wants, the whining and crying from not being able to communicate is lessening

Jai Lynn has been doing great also, here is what she did today:

  • Took her clothes to the basement only had to ask once
  • Cleaned up the floor in her room
  • Sang and danced with me today

Mason:

  • Language is becoming clearer
  • Tantrums lessening

All in all the kids are doing great.  So proud of all of them.  So that is our Friday update hope you enjoyed, we are still doing the same supplements:

We don’t take all supplements everyday, honestly the only two we take consistently are the Divine Child drink and Juice Plus. I watch what they eat and make sure I keep their brains working.

Know in the journey you are not alone, we have come a long way and still have a lot of ground to cover but I am beginning to see and their teachers are beginning to see a real change in the two older kids and everyone is commenting on how “aware and smart” Mason is.

Keep up with us as we chronicle our summer time fun and learning expedition.

Until Next Time

Wishing you Peace, Love and Healing

Charmaine

 

Updates 6/1/13

Autism

So, we just started Juice Plus again with Marcus and I split my dosage with Jai Lynn.  Marcus had been seizure free for about 2 weeks then they started up again on Wednesday of this week, he seems to be a bit under the weather but in great spirits. The seizures never last long and his recovery time is normal.

Autism Updates ~ This Week’s Treatments

So these past few week have been very minimal, the Divine Child Drink. That’s it, I have to get more clay but we did a castor oil wrap today and will do an epsom salt bath tomorrow as that is also a way to detox.  We haven’t been up to much.

 

Autism Updates ~ Kid Updates

Marcus Jr – He has be more communicative, he has been more focused and he has been more helpful.  He has been answering more questions almost having conversations! We have been able to have mini conversations with him if we are asking the questions.

Jai Lynn – Has been a bit more focused and has had the ability to control her emotions a bit better.  She has been communicating more also.

Mason- Has been talking and requesting more and has understanding what is being requested of him. He can count to 5 with assistance.

 

Autism Updates ~ The Future

My kids are healing more and more everyday.  Parents if your child has a different ability don’t allow anyone to tell you what they Can’t do or will NEVER be able to do.  You know your baby .

Until next time

Peace Love and Healing

Charmaine

 

To Vaccinate or not to Vaccinate that is the question

This is a touchy, touchy, touchy subject…vaccines.  Are they any good, are the parents not vaccinating crazy?  I believe (this is my personal opinion I am not anywhere near the medical profession but this is my gut feeling about how they affect my kids) in my heart of heart that vaccines are not the wonderful that the medical community, government and pharmaceutical companies would have you believe.  I think they were manufactured for people who didn’t have the time to be sick or have sick kids so they needed a quick fix. The drug companies realized that they could make money off of us and our “microwave” mentality and ran with it.  They began manufacturing drugs and vaccines to “keep you kids healthy” never mentioning diet, exercise (the stuff that requires some work) because we didn’t want to hear it.

I believe that vaccinating your child is your personal decision as a parent. I don’t fault those who do and I don’t think those that don’t are crazy, it’s your choice.  But I don’t, I seriously believe that my son’s issues stem from vaccine damage as his first seizure came after a round up of vaccines given to him by the U.S. military “doctors” and “medical staff”(oh boy do I use that term loosely we’ll talk about how the U.S. government cares for their service members and their families in a later blog) whew give me a minute too many feeling rushing (I see some forgiveness work in my near and immediate future on this one). in a period of three months my son had over12 (DTAP, Polio, Hib, Hep B, Prevnar all given at the SAME time in March, April and June of 2004)vaccinations that where given to him all while he had recurrent  double ear infections…(wait I need another minute to process this one)…Soon after the last go round he got super sick and then had a seizure , which when I remember back is the same type of seizure that he is having now.  When he was admitted into the hospital he was diagnosed with pneumonia and staph infection of the blood! It never occurred to anyone that something was extremely wrong with that picture.

I know that me as his mom should’ve stepped in but I didn’t have the knowledge that I had now and I was still apart of that mindset that  medical staff knew everything and that they actually had my child’s best interest at heart.  There only concern was a schedule and not the health and wellness of my child.

I say all of that to say this, if you do or don’t vaccinate know your why. Not to explain it to anyone else because it’s no one’s business if you do or don’t, but that explanation is for you. So that no matter what happens to your child good or bad health wise you know that you did all you could, you know that you were armed with the knowledge you needed to make a conscious decision for your child’s health. Please READ up on whatever you decided to do or not do, research, research, research don’t take ANYONE’S word for it.

I know that had I not vaccinated my son as well as pump him with antibiotics that his path would be much different than what it is now, and as a parent I have to forgive myself because I only did what I knew. My job now is to make him better.  That’s why I was always so tough on Marcus, Jr because I felt like I caused it, that it was my fault that he was having seizures, and he could talk or that he is in his own world and seeing the reflection of things you think you did wrong is painful.  I think that is the most painful part about having a child with a different ability, you feel in some way responsible. Now I’m not about to be popular for this next statement but here goes.

In a sense you are responsible for whatever your child’s current (note the word current) condition. I’m not talking solely the different ability itself but everything surrounding it. Stop babying your child saying what they can’t do or will never be able to do, because it sets a tone in the universe, then they take on the mindset that they are limited in life.  Stop dwelling on  what you “might” have or “might not have” done that’s in the past, how is being depressed helping your future or your child’s future?  I’m not saying you can’t have a sad day or a day that you are totally frustrated with the process, just don’t stay there it’s not healthy for anyone.

Great example of what I mean:

Marcus, Jr had impulse control issues, and I would always jump down his thought, yell at him, just basically sending him bad vibes, so that’s how he acted, no better no worse.  I always said to myself he will never get better he will always be doing this thing or that thing.  So he did, and the vicious cycle continued and it even caused other family members to join in and gang up on Marcus and how “bad” he was. One day I woke up and decided to shift my thinking about him and only feed him positive message because I didn’t like the mom in front of me or the kids that she was producing. I resolved that no matter what his abilities where I was going to prepare him to be his best by being patient and kind. And the kid that emerged is the kid I’m blogging about now, helpful, attentive, smart, loving, able to follow along in class.

So you see mom’s and dad’s thought hold A LOT of  power. More than you could ever imagine.

Feed your family thoughts of healing, kindness, love, compassion. Dish it out and you’ll be sure to get it back.

Send you Love. Health. and Wellness

Charmaine

 

New Updates 4-27-2013

This week has been a super crazy week for us.  My son’s school was on lockdown for the second time this year (http://www.mlive.com/news/detroit/index.ssf/2013/04/gunfire_in_harper_woods_leads.html) and he had seizures this week, 3 on Thursday, 4 on Friday and 2 today.  They appear to be tonic-clonic seizures(http://www.epilepsyfoundation.org/livingwithepilepsy/parentsandcaregivers/parents/infants/tonicclonic.cfm)

Which is more information than what the neurologist has ever given me.  If that is the case then the medication that he is on is not going to help (not like it really was anyway). So I’m looking into some natural methods to help him.  Other than the seizures he has been doing quite well but he we have a lot of work that we will be doing over the summer.

Jai Lynn has been doing……great as far as being able to verbalize and converse with us.  Today was very memorable.  She has a difficult time regulating her voice and she is not good with inflections and all that human stuff that we do.  She doesn’t get that smacking her lips or moaning are inappropriate behavior. Long story short, she got very upset  tonight because she was redirected by dad and it wasn’t “nice”. So, she begun to cry. So I seperated them (not literally  and I went into her room and we talked.  I gave her re-affirming statements to repeat, “I am beautiful, I am smart, I am loved” then I had her to tell me two things that she was thankful for today and she said that I made sandwiches and that she had a chocolate covered strawberries.  And that got her to smile, telling me what she’s thankful for always gets her to smile.  Once she calmed down she and dad made up and all was right with the world.  After dad left the room she and I talked for a minute.

She said “I have to worry about myself mom” and I told her yes that that her brothers where not her responsibility to care for and that she didn’t need to feel the need to always be concerned about what they did or didn’t do because mom or dad would always find out. Plus, she was a great big sister that loved and cared for her brothers and that she is doing a great job.

This summer with her I think social awareness skills and self-esteem are going to be on the top for learning this summer for her.

This is why I am homeschooling next year because although she’s learning academics (loosely) the social piece is…somewhat lacking.  She mainly has issues with self esteem and some depression.  I take ownership in some of the mental struggles that shes having, because I was having them also and I am working on them now.  So as I build myself up I build her up.  I want her to learn lessons now and not take 30 some odd years to get it.  That is way I am thankful that I am on this journey, I was meant to go on it now.  I’m happy that she and I are doing it together because it gives me the opportunity to be a true example.

So that is what is going on with us as of late.  I’m getting my cards ready for Mother’s Day and Graduation’s, I have vendor shows coming up so I am a very busy girl.

Until next time

Charmaine

Oh my Progress!

The past few days for Marcus, Jr and Jai Lynn have been amazing to see their growth and level of understanding growth and flourish.  To see them get things.

 

*side note I started this posting before they got home from school. I don’t know if it’s because we have a vacation coming up or what but they are getting to me all of them.*

Any who.  Monday and Tuesday for Marcus, Jr. at school were wonderful.  They reported that he had been able to sit at the table at lunchtime for the past two days without being re-directed, he has been doing his work at school and at home with pretty good focus and without much fanfare. He had been doing well at home also.

Today he had a few small upsets but I think it’s time for castor oil wrap and clay bath so we’ll see.

 

Otherwise kids doing great. I thought Jai Lynn was done crying about school but she’s not. Now I’m beginning to think she’s not just being dramatic.  She’s not saying that anyone is messing with her or making her feel uncomfortable but she doesn’t want to go. She says the school is too big and old. Which in my mommy mind mean something else.

Thankfully I’ll be starting homeschool lessons this summer so they will be ready to go in the fall.  I will be creating my own curriculum as I am not satisfied with the ones from the internet schools. Still feel to boxed in for me.

I’m planning a day next week to run off and get some things together (not running away just running to Starbucks for free Wi-Fi) so I can start getting materials ready for summer.

Until Next Time

Wishing you health and wellness

Charmaine

 

 

April 11, 2013 and beyond!

So I have been away for a few weeks it’s been a bit crazy around here.  I was preparing for my business open house for Thirty One and Stampin’ Up! and I was also preparing for my first day of class.  I’m huge on schedules around here so I had to re-configure my business and academic life into my schedule and I figured while I was at it I might as well add in the homeschooling schedule because summer will be here before I know it and so will fall.  I have decided to create my own curriculum as I am not enthused with the two internet based schools that I found, plus my gut is telling me that my kids will learn better with something completely tailored to them.  You might think me crazy but I enjoy having my children home with me.   So what you wonder has been going on in the Fuller world of Autism?

Let’s start with Jai Lynn Spring break was a great time for us we worked on multiplication, subtraction and general overall household chores.  We worked on and still are working on her not apologizing for everything.  Learning that when you make a mistake to apologize once but don’t continue doing it. Once is enough. She is doing 1 tsp of the Divine Child drink, Serrapeptase, castor oil wraps, clay bath acetyl l carnitine.

This summer we’re going to dig deep with reading comprehension. Although, she can read at a 6th grade level she can only comprehend at about a third, she retains about one quarter of what she reads. She is not very good at all at simple recall.  The main reason I’m thinking of pulling her is that  middle school is a completely different monster   Many more kids, classes just bigger and that is a lot.  She can’t even tell me clearly what went on at school that day.  And that concerns me that she doesn’t have simple recall skills.

Jai Lynn has come a long way in the department of self-care but she still has a ways to go.We are still learnin how to deal with emotions and not go from 0 -1000 in 30 seconds flat.  But progress is being made.  A gain for her was this morning we were running late mainly because she was playing aroud in her room versus getting dressed and eating her breakfast.  When we got in the car she asked where we late and I stated “yes” and she said I’m sorry for doddling (from little Bill it means being a slowpoke). Then today after a melt down she said mom I’m sorry for yelling.  When she has meltdowns (which isn’t too often) she’ll often make negative statements like “I’m such a fool, I’m stupid, I’m a loser” so I’ve been taking those times to pump her with positive affirmations, we have also been doing positive affirmations before she gets out of the car.

Marcus, Jr has been doing well. Spring Break was a great , no seizures.  He worked on math and reading fluency. Same supplements as Jai Lynn including Min-Chex.

Some gains that he is making is in his cognitive ability.  We just started Luminosity which is a brain training website, you get some games for free the rest along with some other tools are available with the subscription, we will be getting the subscription by the way for both kids because they both need it.

This week so far he has had four seizures (three yesterday, one today) a bout of bad gas, and grinding his teeth.  The new Divine Child drink has tamarind in it to detox them from fluoride poisoning (yes the stuff in our water and toothpaste that they said would help is poisoning us and our children) and it also has kelp which is a great source of iodine.

Today he had a castor oil wrap and clay bath and is doing much better. It appears to me that he is detoxing from the new divine child drink and that we should see more gains. He has been very alert all day, although alert his focus has been a bit off today which it normally is after a seizure.  This seizure was different than anyone one I have seen. Then I started to think, maybe it is because I never truly observed his seizures my “fight or flight” went into play and my main concern was getting him someplace safe. But it appears that he is having General Tonic-Clonic Seizures.  So now that I have a pretty good idea that it’s not absence seizures I can move forward (which is why we are using Luminosity). Something he did last night that made me keep the faith is, when his curtain fell I asked him where was the piece that went to it. I heard it drop on the floor but didn’t see it where I thought it would be.  After I finished attaching the curtain he tapped me on the shoulder and pointed directly to the piece! So super proud of him.

 

Mason is growing by leaps and bounds and his language is doing great he can say mamma, daddy, bro bro,sissy, GiGi(that’s my mom) and trying to teach him PaPa. He knows who each of the people are, and he can identify and say his (and yours) nose, ears, mouth, head,teeth, and other body parts. Whenever someone doesn’t give him his way he says their name the says a bunch of baby talk in the middle then the name of whoever he’s reporting to so for example Daddy insert baby talk here Sissy.  So that would mean he’s telling on his sister lol.  He knows how to ask for food items that he wants and can read facial expressions like the guy from the show “Lie To Me” (If you haven’t seen it look it up). We are learning shapes, numbers, colors, counting and alphabet.

 

So as you see we are super busy here but I love it.  We have some exciting events coming up in the near future that I will report on and so much growth on the horizon.

Until Next Time,

Wishing you Blessings & Recovery,

Charmaine

*side note I was just elected as an at-large delegate to the Michigan Special Education Advisory Committee State Advisory Panel!

What’s Going On? 3/15/13

So, we are back on the protocol, kinda. This week has been a week of catch up for me still muddled with things I’ve obliged myself to. I honestly need to learn the lesson not to volunteer for anything during the week and during the day.  I don’t know what possessed me to volunteer to RUN the school book fair.  But, that’s neither here or there on to my beautiful wonderful kids.

This week has been challenging for my two older kids and the two year old is just progressing along.

Jai Lynn:

Just about everyday for the past week, Jai Lynn has been saying she doesn’t want to go to school. That it’s too noisy, too crowded and too big.  I first made sure that she wasn’t being bullied then I went into action. So we are having her leave a bit early from her classes before everyone else to lessen some of that hallway anxiety.  She’s been doing a great job with her work.  On her MI ACCESS test (a stupid test they give every year) she has improved greatly from last year she is almost at level in math and surpassed in reading.  We are still working on comprehension because although she can read at a sixth grade level, she can only comprehend at about a third grade level.  So I am working on tools that we can use for the reminder of the school year and summer to get it together for her and close the gap.

I’m not even going to say what supplements she took this week because I’m still not on track and some days we did everything we had and other days she did not. If she wasn’t in the supplement line in the am she missed out.  I am very short on time in the morning and don’t have time to track a kid down to take a supplement.  Once I get back into my “groove” it will get easier.

 

Marcus, Jr:

He has had a pretty good week. Teacher said he has been doing great on his work and that he can now count money up to $2.00 using coins.  He has had 2 seizures this week, both were at school, the first was on Tuesday and  he had to come home because I didn’t send in his usual jogging pants that he likes to wear after his seizures I sent in jeans. So that made him very upset and he had to come home.  Also, on that day he was still having nasal drainage and  some coughing.  So I brought him home, put him in his jammies and let him relax.  He had another seizure today, I took in the jogging pants so he stayed at school and had a pretty good day afterwards.  When he got home I noticed that his eyes are a bit red and that the tips of his ears are red and warm. The eyes are a sign of detox the ears are a sign of some sort of allergic reaction so he had some stuff going on.

Today in the grocery store he was very easily re-directed, when he started to get less focused he came back to me to hold my hand, he helped me out in the store (I do that to keep him busy and keep him from becoming  so distracted) and he listened so well.  I had to put this in writing so on a tough Autism/ADHD day I could come back to this post and see how far he has come and I could remember how great he is as a kid and how much potential he has.

Same supplement story for him.

Now today I did start the castor oil wraps back up for both and the coconut keifer.  I don’t know what I did to my milk keifer because it’s gummy, I think when it really warmed up for those few days last week it threw it off a bit. That change in temp messed with my keifer production. But we will get that back on track.  I have not started my kombucha yet hoping to start it this upcoming week.

I am learning to not beat myself up when I can’t follow the protocol like I should.  I do what I can when I can and I keep it moving.  The Divine Child drink has a new ingredient in it Tamarid and it helps detox the body from fluoride poisoning.  I have also taken out the toothpaste with fluoride, next is our water.

When you are battling Autism, Epilepsy, G6PD, or whatever your loved one faces, remember you are only human, and sometimes your going to miss giving a supplement or medication, everything is not going to be on schedule no matter how well you pencil it in.  Be OK with not being perfect, be OK with being tired, be OK with just wanting to enjoy your kids where they are sometimes.

Always try and find the good in your child, it’s there.  I’ve shifted my thinking for my sons, instead of saying, “he’s so bad” or “he’s never focused” or “he’s just a mess to “my God boy you are super curious, let’s help you discover” I’m learning to help them discover a world that they have never known.  It keep me from going mad and it keeps them wanting to learn and happy.  I work on my son’s a lot because they are the most work.  Even though the two year old isn’t Autistic or anything else he is still a handful.  Funny but sometimes it seems as if he and my older son are at the same level mentally so it’s often like having a two year old and maybe a 5 or 6 year old double teaming me. My daughter is “cool in the breeze” our largest struggle with her right now is, handling her emotions and keeping her cool.

The kids haven’t meditated or done yoga in a while so we have to get back on it soon, I think a lot of our issues stem from them not having that inner peace on lock.

Well, that is all that is going on with my family.  I’ll be starting classes soon along with running a business and a household. I’m learning to shift my thinking and get somethings together. I’ll do a me blog post later.

But kids are doing OK, we’re not where we would like to be but we’re sure as heck not where we where and that my friends is a great thing.  Looking forward to more gains with all three kids and looking forward to sharing our victories and defeats with you all.

Until next time

Wishing you Health, Wellness and Recovery,

Charmaine