IEP Drama

Normally I’m long winded but this my dears is going to be short and sweet.

Parents we must stop our thoughts about a thing always determine it’s outcome.  If you go into your child’s IEP dreding it and saying to yourself and others how exhausting it will be, how the teachers and administrators never cooperate. Then you will have and exhausting and unproductive IEP.

Parents we MUST stop this IEP Drama and stop being so negative.  It seems that often times in the IEP community we take pride in how horrible our IEP experience was and how much trouble it was and what administrator or teacher we had to get nasty with. For years I thought something was wrong with me because my kids have always had speedy, happy IEP sessions.  I then began to make stuff up to prolong the IEP so that I would have something to talk about.

What I realized is that is unnecessary.

Short tip:

Find the good in it all. When you find the good when you find your teams strengths when you play those up the negative will disappear  You create your world and not anyone else.

Create something great, trust me.

Wishing you Health and Wellness

Charmaine

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New Updates 4-27-2013

This week has been a super crazy week for us.  My son’s school was on lockdown for the second time this year (http://www.mlive.com/news/detroit/index.ssf/2013/04/gunfire_in_harper_woods_leads.html) and he had seizures this week, 3 on Thursday, 4 on Friday and 2 today.  They appear to be tonic-clonic seizures(http://www.epilepsyfoundation.org/livingwithepilepsy/parentsandcaregivers/parents/infants/tonicclonic.cfm)

Which is more information than what the neurologist has ever given me.  If that is the case then the medication that he is on is not going to help (not like it really was anyway). So I’m looking into some natural methods to help him.  Other than the seizures he has been doing quite well but he we have a lot of work that we will be doing over the summer.

Jai Lynn has been doing……great as far as being able to verbalize and converse with us.  Today was very memorable.  She has a difficult time regulating her voice and she is not good with inflections and all that human stuff that we do.  She doesn’t get that smacking her lips or moaning are inappropriate behavior. Long story short, she got very upset  tonight because she was redirected by dad and it wasn’t “nice”. So, she begun to cry. So I seperated them (not literally  and I went into her room and we talked.  I gave her re-affirming statements to repeat, “I am beautiful, I am smart, I am loved” then I had her to tell me two things that she was thankful for today and she said that I made sandwiches and that she had a chocolate covered strawberries.  And that got her to smile, telling me what she’s thankful for always gets her to smile.  Once she calmed down she and dad made up and all was right with the world.  After dad left the room she and I talked for a minute.

She said “I have to worry about myself mom” and I told her yes that that her brothers where not her responsibility to care for and that she didn’t need to feel the need to always be concerned about what they did or didn’t do because mom or dad would always find out. Plus, she was a great big sister that loved and cared for her brothers and that she is doing a great job.

This summer with her I think social awareness skills and self-esteem are going to be on the top for learning this summer for her.

This is why I am homeschooling next year because although she’s learning academics (loosely) the social piece is…somewhat lacking.  She mainly has issues with self esteem and some depression.  I take ownership in some of the mental struggles that shes having, because I was having them also and I am working on them now.  So as I build myself up I build her up.  I want her to learn lessons now and not take 30 some odd years to get it.  That is way I am thankful that I am on this journey, I was meant to go on it now.  I’m happy that she and I are doing it together because it gives me the opportunity to be a true example.

So that is what is going on with us as of late.  I’m getting my cards ready for Mother’s Day and Graduation’s, I have vendor shows coming up so I am a very busy girl.

Until next time

Charmaine

Week Three “Making my Children Better” Challenge

So we are coming to a close of week three of the “Making my kids better challenge”  and this week has been the best of them all.  Here are the supplements that we are doing for our children this past week:

  • Serrapeptase 2 40,000 i.u.’s on Friday, Saturday and Sunday
  • Castor Oil Wrap Friday, Saturday Sunday
  • Clay Bath Sunday
  • Acetyl L Carnitine 1 per day 7 days
  • MRM Attention Gels up to 3 per day 7 days
  • Min Chex up to 3 per day 7 days
  • Niacinamide 1 per day 7 days
  • Chelated Molybedum 1 per day 7 days
  • Melatonin 1 mg tab per night 7 nights
  • Zeolite 1 tbsp per night 7 nights
  • Divine Child Drink 1 tblspn per day 7 days
  • NADH 1 tab 3x per week

So the gains/changes we have seen are as follows:

Marcus Jr.

  • More language that is appropriate
  • Teachers and aides reporting more focus in doing his work
  • Last time he had Seizure was Sunday, February 3, 2013 very brief quick recovery
  • Increased patience and ability to wait
  • Less frustration
  • In church on Sunday (yes he went after he had a seizure) he gave out high fives
  • He’s been helping me more in the kitchen
  • Been easier to re-direct
  • Been more affectionate
  • Asked dad, “Where is the remote” and it wasn’t a part of a “script” (no echolia)
  • He can now say how old he is

Jai Lynn

  • Less crying spells greater ability to breathe through unfavorable news
  • Greater ability to recall school day
  • Greater ability to follow directions without getting confused

Now, Jai Lynn and Marcus, Jr are two COMPLETELY different ends of the spectrum. His changes are often more drastic and easily seen hers are much more subtle. So as I think of things about either child I will be adding it here.  But both kids are doing very well.  I’m thinking that when we start doing everything on the protocol our gains will be even larger.

I will be doing more video for our YouTube channel(please email me for link and password) this weekend.  Would like to do video updates of both kids. The only kid going through growing pains is Mason, as he is almost two years old so ironically he is the most challenging child at this point. As both older kids are assisting with him and making sure he is taken care of and out of “trouble’.

This has been a great week.  We are moving upward and onward.

Love and Blessings

Charmaine

Side note: Because I have two kids that I have to do castor oil wraps for I warm the flannel up in the oven on 250 for about 15 minutes, let it cool and then apply, the heat lasts for about 30 minutes. It allows me to wrap two kids at once with an even heat.   My clay I have a dedicated blender to blend it in so it’s smooth.

 

Frustrations, Angst and Confusion

So today on Facebook one of the pages I follow (RespectABILITY Law Center) posts many interesting tips and articles.  Well today they posted an article about a 15 year old NY girl that cognitive delays being placed in a room full of  juvenile delinquents and gang raped. Now, where the administration was who knows I mean, damn, really?

I have enough trouble with the school keeping my children from getting bit by the same child every year! So how in God’s name am I as a mom to expect them to watch out for them and keep them from being molested, raped, beaten, or in their case all three?  Then come to find out that Grosse Pointe Public Schools the stellar, upstanding, top notch school they are also has the same issue.  That any student that doesn’t fit their cookie cutter mold gets shipped to Special Services, so in essence you could have a kid that has severe mental, violence or a combination mixed either with parents that don’t care or don’t know how to handle that child along with a school district who just wants to throw kids in a room and get paid and that could equal disaster.

I think after my son’s last biting episode I am a bit jaded about the district that I swallowed the “red pill” on.  This school is filled with more smoke screens and illusions than a David Copperfield show. When we moved back to MI from ME an old acquaintance of ours told us how Wonderful GPPS was that the teachers where great, blah blah blah.  I should have followed my intuition, my daughter when she entered this school district was at grade level..GRADE LEVEL! Now all of a sudden she’s not able to grasp 3rd grade math concepts? There was so much I didn’t know then because Maine had done all IEP work for me, as there they TRULY cared about the kids and their succession. They wanted to push and not hold them back. I don’t just blame teachers and administration I blame myself, which is why I know all this special education stuff now.

So, I’m not happy with Grosse Pointe Public Schools, if I had a concrete plan I would pull my kids out now. It’s interesting how Special Education is the “cash cow” for Grosse Pointe yet we don’t have tutoring programs, we don’t have anything extra that will help our children succeed like general education. It’s like regular instruction should be enough.  And they don’t want to place any of the kids in ESY because they claim that the criteria is “regression/recoupment” which that is not the only criteria that determines ESY and legally you don’t need to show regression/recoupment in order to place a child in ESY but that’s another story for another time.

The special education system is broken at best.  In the case of my district, you have kids of varying disabilities and grade levels often in one classroom, while you have a teacher splintered  trying to teach everyone on their own level not only does he or she have multiple different abilities in the room but kids from different grades and aides that are also over worked and in the case of our district way underpaid. You have parents trying to just get the district to provide FAPE (free appropriate public eduation) on a consistent basis, forget extras we’re just trying to get what is required by law.

If what is going on in special education was going on in general education, there would surely be a riot.  It’s so weird that when it comes to kids the governments seem to have their hands tied and eyes covered.

I don’t know maybe I’m over-reacting or maybe I’ve been swallowing the red pill (Matrix reference) for too long. But in any case something needs to be done about our special education system.  Laws aren’t being followed and kids are getting left behind although in our world they continue to advance them regardless of whether or not they have met their IEP goals for that year.

How is your child doing in school? How would you rate your child’s education? Would you recommend your district to anyone else, or if you could move or drive your child elsewhere would you? Sometimes it’s not worth the fight, I don’t have time to wait until my kids sink further and further into the abyss of falling socially and academically behind.

How are my kids doing in school? Not bad but not good. How would I rate my child’s education? I rate it a 3 out of a 5. Would I recommend my district to anyone else? No, Grosse Pointe Public School is not Special Education friendly, now if you have a slew of neuro-typicals it’s the district for you, unless you end up at Poupard which has the highest number of African American Children then you get the bottom of the barrel (that too is a different story). 

Use my random thought to re-evaluate your child’s current educations situation be they in general education or special education and ask yourself, am I happy with the results. Take a deep look back over all of their report cards, assessments, IEP’s, progress reports, just look at everything   If you are happy great if not then changes need to be made and either you need to try to work with teachers and administrators or leave and find another school to attend (which is a lot easier than you think nowadays) but do something.

Love and Blessings,

Charmaine

The Article that started this blog

A Day Out!

Today was a day off for everyone and so I had to find something for the kids to do to keep them from driving hubby and I and each other nuts.  So last night I decided that today we would go bowling and then go out to lunch making it a full day of fun.  So we had breakfast, got dressed and headed out for the bowling alley that I had coupons for.

We got to the bowling alley and they had no open spots left, I had taken the kids in with me to hold the lanes and they both did a pretty good job when we had to leave.  Minimal whining and crying, and they quickly adjusted when we explained to them that we where going to another bowling alley that had the space.  We got to Harbor Lanes the kids where very excited. As soon as Marcus Jr got in he begun to take off his coat and shoes, I guess in his mind he was ensuring that we weren’t going to leave this bowling alley without him getting a chance to bowl.

Marcus Jr did so well bowling and listening and following directions.  He did a great job waiting his turn, he genuinely had a great time.  Jai Lynn not so well, she had a melt down the end of the first game because she didn’t win that first game (Mason won). So she begun crying and getting very disrespectful. Every time she gets upset or gets chastised she starts crying and saying she wants to die. Now I know she really doesn’t want to die but that’s the most dramatic thing that gets the biggest rise outta dad and I so she says it.  She spent the entire second game crying and spazzing out versus enjoying herself.  She was upset for the rest of the time at the bowling alley and when we got home she did a lot of stomping and crying so she was sent to her room while everyone else got comfortable and settled and I let her out when she calmed down so that she could eat. After that she was fine.  Mason  was great until the second frame of the second game he was exhausted and every movement made him whine he fell asleep on the way home.

Once everyone got settled and had lunch I ran Marcus, Jr a clay bath.  I noticed at bowling that his eyes were a little red and we have been putting a lot into him vitamin supplement wise so I know he need to be detoxed.  He spent at least 45 minutes in the clay bath and loved every minute of it.  It was good to see him happy and interactive.  Jai Lynn stayed in the clay bath for a little over an hour. Mason missed out on clay baths today because he was taking a nap.  But he will get one tomorrow.

Today everyone also took their dose of Zeolite and Activated Charcoal. I also purchased some goats milk soap and made my own lotion (cold pressed castor oil and coconut oil), I also purchased Eco Nuts to wash with and Wool Dryer Balls for the dryer, eliminating more toxins. Going to be looking into homemade cleaners, shampoos and some other things.  We are trying to heal not only our kids but ourselves from years of misuse.

Marcus, Jr also had morning meditation and had his energy cleansed with sage. Didn’t do the other two kids but will make it a point to do it tomorrow morning to give them a great start to their day. Tomorrow is also a yoga night so that will be another great way to help them deal with emotions and feelings learning to breathe and be thankful through it all.  Tomorrow we will also be starting in our homework binders so our week is moving along well.  So far Jai Lynn has obtained two stars on her chore chart and Mason one, still trying to make Marcus, Jr aware of his chart and to become interested in earning money and keeping his spaces clean.  Today we took all vitamin supplements on our vitamin chart and did the clay bath.  We have to get in some more coconut keifer as we are out.

So far so good on our journey doing this is allowing me to really look at deficits to really see where we need to work.  Please feel free to ask any questions if I don’t know the answer I will find someone who does.

Love and Blessings

Charmaine

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Making my Kids Better Challenge

So I have resolved for the next 30 days I would give it all I can in the supplement area. Now, for me that means pill supplements as well as educational and life skill supplementation.  So we are closely following Dahakaris Protocol as it has garned much success for not only the family that created the protocol but for us as well.  Often times we as parents see gains and stop doing what we’re doing or we see regression and stop doing what we’re doing.  When in actually it means that we should persevere and  push forward.

What I have started is charts for everything we want to improve. I have a chore chart that I have finally purchased.  I was going to make one up but that wasn’t going well.  I created a vitamin supplement chart, and I have also created homework binders sectioned off and based off of the two older kids IEP’s and the baby’s based off of what things he should be doing at this level and the next.

This is the picture of Marcus Jr’s and Jai Lynn’s chore chart.  Two stars gets them .50, 4 stars, $1 and 6 stars $5, this will teach them some sort of responsibility and about counting money. I haven’t completed Mason’s chart yet as I think his will be money based also. Then I’m going to make it that if they get 10-15 stars I’m going to have a toy bin with a special toy and 20 or more stars will get a day out with daddy or mommy doing the activity of their choice.

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This is the picture of the vitamin supplement chart. As many of you with children on any edge of the spectrum (ADHD, Autism, OCD, ADD the list goes on) knows that vitamin supplements are often our life line to sanity as well as seeing signs of gains and life in our children.  Well we have so many vitamin supplements that I would always forget something and then I would feel bad about it.  This way I can see what the kids need, my husband can see what they need and one day the kids will be able to either tell me or do it on their own. This will go on my fridge for now, will probably re-tool this and make it smaller but I truly needed something now. I am still creating check marks for this chart so that we can see what has been done.  This chart will be moved to the wall as little hands will most likely have a lot of fun moving my check marks.

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This is a picture of the homework binder for Jai Lynn I am still working on Marcus, Jr’s and Mason’s.  This is just a preliminary as I’m sure I’ll be adjusting it in the upcoming months.  This is set up by each IEP goal that we’re working on and the corresponding sub category.

 

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Lastly, tomorrow I will be working on a menu book with recipes so that it will make it easy for anyone who can turn on a stove to cook in my absence.

If you are wondering why everything is not on the same schedule or sheet, for my kids and me too much causes distraction then nothing gets done.  So, I have things organized throughout.

I am finding that schedules work well in our household when everyone knows what’s expected there is less frustration and things run smoother.  Feel free to borrow my ideas if you think that they will work for your family.

Love and Blessings

Charmaine

Kiddie Schedule

This week we are working on the following things.

Jai Lynn
Subtraction
One digit multiplication
Reading a passage and answering question
Greater than less than
Number placement
Journaling
Money

Marcus Jr
Addition
Spelling
Writing sentences
Money
Subtraction
Greater than less than

Mason
Alphabet
Counting to 10
Drawing lines following patterns

Each child will work from a chore list this week.

Supplements will be:
The divine child drink
Acyetl L Carntine
Chelated Molybdenum
Nacimide (spelling off sorry)
Aloe Vera Juice
Olive Leaf Oil Extract
Methyl B 12
Vitamin D3
Hemp Seed Oil

Will be also chronicling how the children will be progressing this week.

This week I will be attending a PTO meeting as well as the Michigan ICC Early On meeting so will be blogging on those.

Love & Blessings
Charmaine.